Of all of the things I want you to know, it's how magnificent you are.
How you are enough exactly as you are. And how worthy of love you are.
OH HOW LOVED YOU ARE!
You belong here. Whoever, however, and wherever you are in your journey. Exactly as you are. And exactly as you will become.
It has taken me awhile to get to the place that I can tell you, with certainty, that this is true.
My story has had a lot of difficulty. Trauma, abuse, poverty, abandonment, shame.
Probably much like yours.
Through these difficulties, I hid my true self, and my pain from everyone around me. I isolated myself from friendships that I desperately needed to have, but could not figure out how to participate in fully with my baggage.
I did not know how to be fully who I was and also allow others in. I didn't know how I could be honest about my life and still be loved.
So I kept doing the things I knew would make me fit in. The things that were expected of me. On the outside, my life seemed “perfect.”
Until one day I realized the life I was living wasn't mine. I was simply going through the motions of my fay while hoping that “someday” it would be better.
Living in fear and shame was no life.
Somewhere in the middle of all of the chaos, I realized that what was lost in the overwhelm and desperation for tomorrow to be different was ME
The journey let to finding and truly loving myself.
To coming back to who I always was but had forgotten.
To realizing what my heart needed and was always looking to give.
What I learned through all of the difficulties is that no matter what is happening, or has happened, we always get to choose who we are.
We are never defined by what has happened to us. And there is a path forward. To freedom. Love. Acceptance. Connection.
What we believe about ourselves and others is a choice. And we can choose it over and over again.
One of the greatest gifts in life is figuring out who we truly are and then loving and being loved from that deep place of knowing.
The good news is you don't have to figure it out alone.